First, let me say
that in this matter, and in any other matter, God is neither a respecter of
persons, nor of the laws of a land. Just because it is legal does not mean it
is right. He respects his word and his word only.
Now to the topic. GOD HATES DIVORCE. Even in the old
testament, where he gave the Israelites permission to do so in the book of
deuteronomy, he speaks in the same old testament, in the book of Malachi.
Mal 2:16
"For I hate divorce," says the LORD, the God of Israel,
"and him who covers his garment with wrong," says the LORD of hosts.
"So take heed to your spirit, that you do not deal treacherously."
So there we have it.
Jesus Christ even mentioned in Matthew that the only way God will accept a man
divorcing a woman ( or vice versa) was
on the grounds of marital unfaithfulness.
Mat 5:31
"It was said, 'WHOEVER SENDS HIS WIFE AWAY, LET HIM GIVE HER A
CERTIFICATE OF DIVORCE';
Mat 5:32 but I
say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except for the reason of
unchastity, makes her commit adultery; and whoever marries a divorced woman
commits adultery. (ASV)
Now don’t get too
happy. Look at verse 32. There's a catch… After the divorce, you can NEVER marry again. Because then if you do, God
sees you as an adulterer. He didn’t say, '… but whosoever marries a divorced
woman…', but '...and whosoever marries a
divorced woman…'. Therefore, regardless of why you divorced, even if it was on
grounds of unfaithfulness, you cant marry again, else you have become an
aldulterer in God's eyes. This applies to Men too, and just in case you think
you have dodged the commandment, see what God has to say about men that divorce
their wives, and also divorce.
Mal 2:14 You
cry out, "Why doesn't the LORD accept my worship?" I'll tell you why!
Because the LORD witnessed the vows you and your wife made when you were young.
But you have been unfaithful to her, though she remained your faithful partner,
the wife of your marriage vows.
Mal 2:15 Didn't
the LORD make you one with your wife? In body and spirit you are His. And what
does He want? Godly children from your union. So guard your heart; remain loyal
to the wife of your youth.
Mal 2:16
"For I hate divorce!" says the LORD, the God of Israel.
"To divorce your wife is to overwhelm her with cruelty, " says the
LORD of Heaven's Armies. "So guard your heart; do not be unfaithful to
your wife." (NLT)
Mat 19:7
"Then why did Moses say in the law that a man could give his wife a
written notice of divorce and send her away?" they asked.
Mat 19:8 Jesus
replied, "Moses permitted divorce only as a concession to your hard
hearts, but it was not what God had originally intended.
Mat 19:9 And I
tell you this, whoever divorces his wife and marries someone else commits
adultery—unless his wife has been unfaithful. [And anyone who marries a
divorced woman commits adultery.]" (NLT)
1Co 7:10 But
for those who are married, I have a command that comes not from me, but from
the Lord. A wife must not leave her husband.
1Co 7:11 But if
she does leave him, let her remain single or else be reconciled to him. And the
husband must not leave his wife. (NLT)
God placed things in
such a way that divorce should be avoided. If the problems are not too bad (
not that betrayal of trust isnt bad enough, but I was speaking about venereal
diseases in particular, or extramarital pregnancies), reconcile. It will be hard to re-establish trust, and
there may be repercussions, but as God's children, we are expected to forgive..
It isnt going to be easy, because as I said, unfaithfullness is one of the
worst forms of betrayal, but if the person is TRULY REPENTANT, the love of
Christ will be able to restore the breach, and make both people love each other
again in a way they never believed was possible. It may never be forgotten, but
the Love of Christ will bring, bind and keep both together in love.
Even if there were
pregnancies or diseases, you may have to
abstain from sexual relations FOREVER. (please think on that before you do
anything, no matter how pretty the person may seem) else, you will have to keep
living in sin.
I have heard of some
rare butdevastating cases where the man was truly repentant, but had infected
the wife with AIDS ( please be carefull, if you truly love your spouse, to live
a pure life, and avoid trouble. God wants to avoid such things for us, so he
tells us to flee youthfull lusts.-He knows the repercussions will be too much
for us to handle.)
2Ti 2:22 Run
from anything that stimulates youthful lusts. Instead, pursue righteous living,
faithfulness, love, and peace. Enjoy the companionship of those who call on the
Lord with pure hearts.
However, anything
outside marital unfaithfulness does not even give you an excuse to divorce, and
is a solid NO! Whether you like him or her, whether you don’t like him or her, whether you are too
different, or too alike. NO WAY!! No excuse will stand in the face of God. I
say, even if a pastor, no matter how anointed, tells you it is right, IT IS
STILL WRONG!. God has said it is wrong, and it is his word that he will use to
judge the world, not the word of your pastor.
Study the Word of
God for yourself, and God will show you his perfect will for your life, and you
will stand. However, now you know the
truth, and you have no excuse. Whatever you do now, you cant claim you did not know,
and if you now sin, it will be held to you as sin. However, God will help you
stand even as you await his coming in Jesus name.
AMEN!!! Have a
blessed day.
